I feel like I'm stuck in a twisted, poorly played Ultimatum Game. [Explanation of the ultimatum game: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ultimatum_game. Quick recap: Player A offers some fraction of a commodity to Player B, who then accepts or rejects the offer. If accepted, the commodity is split according to the offer; if rejected neither player gets anything. Since any amount of the commodity is beneficial, the rational choice is to accept any offer greater than zero.]
In my case the commodity is dates (not the fruit kind) and the two players are me and Girl X. I offer various dates - lunch, dinner, movie, party - and have my offers mostly rejected, usually not flat-out but with some sort of dignifier/apology (e.g. "I'd love to but I have to finish a project for class").
There are a few ways to interpret this.
One is that the commodity offered (i.e. time spent with me) is considered to have negative value. This is perfectly legitimate, but if it is true I'd like to know for my own benefit.
Another is that time spent studying/researching is considered more valuable than time spent with me. Again, I'd like to know so that I can stop worrying about the situation and move on with my life.
Another option is that she is insane. I don't know how to describe or deal with this possibility.
[Note: there may be other possibilities, but I think these are the main three.]
[Note: Nobody reads this blog, so I feel safe posting this stuff here. I'm debating posting this as a note on Facebook, at which point this situation would be visible to more people including Girl X. My current strategy is to lay low.]
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